Handbook
A handbook of operationalising our m/other tongue
Otherwise known as a m/other-us-all
And never as a man-u-al
Please read with your tongue somewhat in your cheek.
This is a growing, changing, emerging document.
Using our m/other tongue to express our tacit maternal knowing is founded on the capacity to be comfortable with:
Not knowing/letting go
Dependence/interdependence
Faithfulness
Daily questions:
Who do I want to care for today?
What care-full maintenance do I wish to attend to today in celebration, joyfulness, and admiration of that maintenance action and the relationships it might facilitate?
What boring graft I have gifted to humankind, and how will I take pride in that?
What Structure am I putting around love? Does this structure support or obscure Engagement? If it obscures, is it necessary for other reasons? What are those reasons? And so, what co-regulated, playful steps forward to the other can I take?
Fear and not knowing are a sign of getting the process right. Shame comes from someone else making you feel small. Guilt is good, it helps us consider if there is something different we could do that might make things better. Guilt helps with taking the initiative.